Have you ever had a brainwave that 2 people who are related to you but don't know each other could be so good together?
When something like that hits you, what do you do?
But if you chose 1, or have taken this option before, you would realise that it ain't easy to bring 2 strangers together. Trust me, I've tried, but my efforts came to nothing. And I've been tried too, with the same negative results.
So what exactly is the problem? Based on personal experience (and some feedback from the subjects of my failed attempts), I'd say it's the contrived environment that these 2 people are put through. Despite the emphasis that the meet-up is nothing more than a casual get-together to make a new friend and have some fun, these 2 subjects, more often than not, put pressure on themselves to make things happen. Examples include forcing yourself to laugh at every joke the other person makes, even if they're not funny, attempting to speak in perfect English when "la-s, blahs and ha-s" define your linguistic habits, or worse, trying to speak with that phony accent. Of course, trying too hard is counter-productive. But at the same time, not trying defeats the matchmaking agenda, which is to impress the other person, and possibly make him/her fall head over heels in love with you.
Or maybe our expectations of love have scaled new heights. We have a check-list with 101 conditions we want in our partner - great career, fat wallets, no BO (very important, this one), good teeth, bright smile, kind heart, loves children etc. When it comes to studies, we've always been asked to take our expectations a notch higher, so that we strive to do better. But when it comes to love, I say it's best to let your expectation slide a notch, so that we don't end up feeling too disappointed. Afterall, doing well in exams is something that is within our control, but finding love is not.
Anyway take my bullshit with a pinch of salt. I'm certainly no love guru, but if you think what I've said makes sense and would like to learn more about my theories of love, hate and conspiracy, pick up the phone and dial now.
- Conjure opportunities for these 2 special people to meet?
- Tell each of them that "Hey, this person I know would be so perfect for you" but don't do anything about it?
- Think "Yea whatever, fate will bring them together!"
But if you chose 1, or have taken this option before, you would realise that it ain't easy to bring 2 strangers together. Trust me, I've tried, but my efforts came to nothing. And I've been tried too, with the same negative results.
So what exactly is the problem? Based on personal experience (and some feedback from the subjects of my failed attempts), I'd say it's the contrived environment that these 2 people are put through. Despite the emphasis that the meet-up is nothing more than a casual get-together to make a new friend and have some fun, these 2 subjects, more often than not, put pressure on themselves to make things happen. Examples include forcing yourself to laugh at every joke the other person makes, even if they're not funny, attempting to speak in perfect English when "la-s, blahs and ha-s" define your linguistic habits, or worse, trying to speak with that phony accent. Of course, trying too hard is counter-productive. But at the same time, not trying defeats the matchmaking agenda, which is to impress the other person, and possibly make him/her fall head over heels in love with you.
Or maybe our expectations of love have scaled new heights. We have a check-list with 101 conditions we want in our partner - great career, fat wallets, no BO (very important, this one), good teeth, bright smile, kind heart, loves children etc. When it comes to studies, we've always been asked to take our expectations a notch higher, so that we strive to do better. But when it comes to love, I say it's best to let your expectation slide a notch, so that we don't end up feeling too disappointed. Afterall, doing well in exams is something that is within our control, but finding love is not.
Anyway take my bullshit with a pinch of salt. I'm certainly no love guru, but if you think what I've said makes sense and would like to learn more about my theories of love, hate and conspiracy, pick up the phone and dial now.
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